Tidbits of submission

So I’ve been reflecting and gaining knowledge on what it means to submit from a woman’s standpoint.

Word of advice to men: if you tell a female “NO” and she then in turn tries to “twist your arm” and make you change your mind, then what you need to do is turn around and take off running! She is not able to respect your wishes nor respect you. Don’t end up having a female come singing to you: and you, and you, and you, you’re gonna love me!

(Ephesians 5:33) 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

(Proverbs 19:13) 13 A foolish son is the ruin of his father,
And the contentions of a wife are a continual dripping.

I was reminded …

I was reminded of this scripture:
(Proverbs 13:12) 12 Hope deferred makes the heart sick,
But when the desire comes, it is a tree of life.

We can wait and wait, and expect things to change or to occur in our life, but yet have to endure the work of patience. As we endure the work of patience we tend to grow weary because what we expect to happen has not happened. We lose hope, we lose faith, and we begin to doubt and give up on what could and would be.

Yet, we must also remember (Galatians 6:9)9 And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart.

Trust in the Lord and know that He does not forsake those who love Him. Hang on to Him, His Word, and know that He is true. Hold on. He will always come through for you. Trust and believe. He will make all things new! Just keep on honoring Him.

Your gift can take you further than your education

Earlier today I was digging through some papers I forgot I had printed out and found a stack of articles I had looked up when God was explaining to me (Proverbs 18:16) ” 16 A man’s gift makes room for him, And brings him before great men.” I heard and read the statement that your gifts will make room for you, meaning your God-given gift/ talent is what sets you up for your destiny. Its great to have an education, but your gift will take you further than your education ever will. 

Recently I have taken a break from school which was arranged by God. This break was very unexpected, but God knows what He is doing. Since I’ve taken a break I’ve had more time to spend one-on-one time with the Lord and focus more on what He wants me to do. Yet, I’ve found myself focusing on other things like considering and looking up jobs, trying to get back in school, thinking about all that hasn’t happened for me and all that I lack at this time in my life. Rather than keeping trust and faith in God that He has everything under control, I wound up losing focus on Him and worrying again and trying to take matters into my own hands. I began thinking about the promises that God revealed to me and thinking well, if this is what I’m going to do then I need to do something about getting there. I began looking up jobs and realized that a lot of the positions required certain skills or an advanced degree. Each position I look at makes me more and more discouraged because I’m under qualified or lack the experience. I consider my own skills and experience and start to think what CAN I DO? I am capable doing anything if trained, but I lack the experience. What can I do? What can I DO….? 

“Your gift can take you further than your education.”

What can I do? I wrote down what I was good at, the character traits that I always exhibited, what I’m passionate about. I wrote all these things and thought to myself this is all I can do, I don’t have any special talents to showcase or something that makes me look extraordinary or significant.  What I can do anybody else can do, so what makes me so special or unique that makes me worthy of having or even doing any job? I’m either over qualified for simple jobs, under qualified for jobs needing advanced degrees, or I lack the experience for jobs I am qualified for.

I sat back and thought about the articles, “your gift can take you further than your education.”  It’s not about looking like everyone else, impressing everyone else, or settling for anything you can just do because of your educational status. It’s about the gift(s) that God has given you. The gifts that God has given me is meant for a specific task that God has designed me for. Its not meant for me to try to be like everyone else or impress everyone. I always thought I was talentless because I couldn’t sing, I wasn’t artistic, not athletic, etc, etc. I always thought that having a talent was about being able to stand out and impress others with what you can do. This is such a terrible mindset to have. This mindset is so dangerous to have its keeps you from appreciating and UTILIZING your own gift(s). You can not be or act like someone you are not. “You’re never going to fully give yourself to what you need to do if you don’t stop comparing yourself to other people and what they can do.- Joyce Meyers”  You have to appreciate your gift because that what brings you into your destiny.   

My gifts/talent: I have always been a very helpful person. I always had an urge to assist people when I can. I take the time to listen when people need to talk. I’m very caring and nurturing. I’m a people person. I work well one-on-one with people. I’m pretty well organized. I love working with little kids and enjoy watching them learn and grow. Children are very impressionable and what happens during childhood makes a huge impact in how that child will be as an adult. I’m pretty persistent and determined about seeking out information or getting things done. These are my gifts and talents. It may not be much in my eyes, but in God’s eyes its the world. I realize and I surprisingly I prayed for this just LAST NIGHT, that God would renew my mind in any area that I needed my mind to be renewed in and He did. For as long as I can remember my gifts have made an impact in people’s lives. I have done maybe the smallest thing for someone and me not realizing or knowing that I had just blessed that person because I took the time to use my gifts in order to pour into that person. I was rewarded with praise and grace all because I used the gift that God has instilled in me. When we are not focused on God’s love and too caught up in the world we tend to forget our own worth and how valuable we are. We covet what we see, constantly comparing ourselves with others, and lose track of our own destiny. There are so many things we are taught to believe that are just not true. I understand now that I must trust in God that what He has instilled in me is great and wonderful and that no matter how much education, experience, or whatever job I try to get, no manmade job can fulfill the gift that is within me. I have to remember that what God has instilled in me is the job, is the experience, is MY CALLING to do. I realize that I do have a heavy calling on my life, but I have to remember that this calling is very important and its not for me to make it in the world or be like the world, but all for the Glory of God, the uplifting of the Kingdom of Heaven.

For those who are feeling the way that I just expressed in this message or you feel like you have tried and tried and nothing seems to work for you, one thing I want to tell you is that you are special and unique in your own way. God made you for a purpose. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else. Take the time to reflect on what you are good at, what you like to do, what is your passion and then ask God what are YOU supposed to do with the gifts/ talents He has lovingly and graciously given you. Continue to seek His face and know that He loves you and will never forsake you. Embrace your gift(s) and allow the Holy spirit to guide you in using your gifts. Be blessed!

(Proverbs 18:16)  16 A man’s gift makes room for him, And brings him before great men.

Thanking God in advance

As the saying goes thank God in advance. I am very hopeful for this year and know that God is going to make some great and wonderful changes in my life. I was browsing through my Facebook feed and noticed a status from a page that I liked over 2 and half years ago. As I was sitting there reading it I realized I didn’t just like that page, but 2 other similiar pages as well. These pages are for encouraging Godly marriages. I was just amazed to believe that after many years of having negative views on marriage my views had went from negative to positive. I realize that at the moment that when those negative views were embedded in my head at the age of 3-4 years old, God was already blessing my future marriage. Through these pages and prayer God is developing and molding into the Godly woman and future wife that He has created me to be. I’m just so hopeful now and just thank God for what He has in store for me and my future. Gotta thank Him in advance!

(Proverbs 31:10-31) 10 Whocan find a virtuous wife?
For her worth is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.
13 She seeks wool and flax,
And willingly works with her hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
She brings her food from afar.
15 She also rises while it is yet night,
And provides food for her household,
And a portion for her maidservants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
From her profits she plants a vineyard.
17 She girds herself with strength,
And strengthens her arms.
18 She perceives that her merchandise is good,
And her lamp does not go out by night.
19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff,
And her hand holds the spindle.
20 She extends her hand to the poor,
Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,
For all her household is clothed with scarlet.
22 She makes tapestry for herself;
Her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates,
When he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
And supplies sashes for the merchants.
25 Strength and honor are her clothing;
She shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And on her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,
And let her own works praise her in the gates. 

He ain’t nothing

I read a statement that said “Most men would’ve left & felt no need to stick around but he hasn’t given up just yet” and also I realized that I made a statement yesterday about how men are mentally immature and take longer than women to mature and get serious about things. I started thinking about it and I came to realize that we, women don’t give men the credit they deserve and if we do give them credit it is always one particular that we view as if he is an exception. As a society we have accepted the fact that because a few men have made mistakes or wronged others that if those few men are like that then all men are like that. The truth is not all men are like that. We have accepted this idea to the point that its engraved in us. We hear as children, we talk bad about men to one another and say these things to our own children and who grow up doing and saying the same thing. Boys hear “oh he ain’t no good.” “You lil’ player aren’t you? and etc. Girls hears “he ain’t no good.” ” he is nothing, but a dawg. and etc. The more we say and hear these things the more we believe and do it. We have to uplift our men and future men of this world and stop putting men down and negatively generalizing them. Same goes to men about women as well. Don’t negatively generalize women based on a few women who have made mistakes or wronged others. We all have to have positive thinking about one another and give each other credit for all that we do. Without man, woman wouldn’t be here. Without a particular man we wouldn’t have a renewed life. I want to take the moment to say thank You, God for putting men on this earth and creating man different and special in their own way. Also thank You for taking the time to make us women comparable to them.

(Proverbs 22:6) 6 Train up a child in the way he should go,
And when he is old he will not depart from it.